Transracial FamilyA lot of the attention my family gets is positive. A lot of people stop to tell us that our kids are beautiful or something like that. However we also get our fair share of questions (some just out of curiosity, some really prying, some down-right rude) and every once and awhile we get a really rude comment. How I respond depends a lot on where I am, what my mood is and most importantly, who is listening. My advise for handling rude/prying questions and comments when your kids are around and old enough to understand is to always say what you want your kids to hear. Kids hear everything, even when you think they aren't listening (or they want you to think they aren't listening), and as much as I would like to shoot back a witty comment or a rude reply to some of the things people say to me, I most often bite my tongue because I know my kids are paying attention. So when people ask, "Are any of them really brother and sister?", I say, "Yes, they are all really brothers and sisters." When people ask, "Which ones are really yours?", I say, "They are all really mine." When people say, "Gosh, you have your HANDS FULL," I say, "Yes they are, and my heart is full too!" I also have no problem telling someone that their question is too personal or that their comment is rude, and I hope by doing so, I am teaching my kids that they don't have to answer every question they are asked or accept rude comments.
Home From Transracial Family/b>
Caring for your Biracial Childs hair! You can do it!
Mother's Hopes and Fears: Am I strong enough to love and let go?
|
