Transracial Adoption. Should a white family of three adopt three biracial girls?After several months of waiting, we were matched. A transracial adoption - I worried, I prayed. I asked for advice...this was one of many positive answers I received. Of course you should adopt them. If you are willing to provide those girls with a loving home, then your race or theirs shouldn't be a factor. Speaking as a bi-racial person myself, I think the best thing you can do is be open to them exploring their cultures and do things to help them learn about their backgrounds (reading, taking them to cultural events, exposing them to positive role models from their ethnic backgrounds). Not only will those things help them learn about their own cultures, but it will have the benefit of exposing you to other cultures as well. (I'm part of a multicultural sorority, so we're big on helping people learn about cultures other than their own.) It seems to me the most damage is done when adoptive parents try to shelter their children from their heritages. Those girls will want to know more about their heritage, and they deserve to know about their heritage. Make sure you understand that when they learn about and embrace their cultures, it is not an affront or a criticism of you. The more open you are with them, the more open they can be with embracing their ethnic backgrounds and the fact that they come from a diverse family such as the one you'll be creating by adopting them. And as they get older, it'll probably also be beneficial to prepare them to the fact that there are racists like the one who first responded to your post -- but that you are not one of them and that they shouldn't take that sort of bigotry to heart.
Transracial Family Resemblence
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