Adopting a Toddler creates a family filled with joy and wonder.Adopting a toddler. Ninety Days...the babies begin trusting. I held these girls until my arms felt like they would fall off. I used several jars of icy hot! Their "big" sister was learning to asks for things she desired... And she found she could get them. Six Months.All the girls trust and believe that we are here to keep them safe. They come running to mommy and daddy when hurt, scared or upset. My compliant three year old has begun requesting different things for dinner than what's being served. I am so pleased to hear it. No longer so timid she's barely has voice to ask, she hops up and down (like every other three year old) in a bouncy voice asks for her desired food. Taking each day as a fresh new day to make mistakes and learn from them has been the hardest part for me. They have suffered so much I want to be perfect and not waste any more of their precious toddler year making a mistakes with them. I have to forgive myself when I misunderstand motives and scold too firmly. I have to pray God covers my mistakes and the girls and see through them to a heart that loves and wants to protect them. 9 months Here we are on the road to adoption. It's amazing how time flies. We are going through new phases of bonding and attachment. Each day anew...I have started a joy journal to keep the happy thoughts alive when I have challenging days. I have also decided to help my daughters remember their happy days to. Each evening we review the positives for the day. Ending on a happy note...
ADOPTION DAY!Well it's here. The girls will have their names changed and will be legally with us forever. We went through some bumpy roads but nothing too much. We have found ways to parent them that allows them the freedom to express their fears and frustrations and express themselves. We are very blessed to have these children in our lives.
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